Diane Ingram Fromme’s Stepparenting the Grieving Child is an illuminating guidebook for parents and stepparents exploring life with a child whose parent has died. Whether the child has experienced the loss of a mother or father, the death of a parent has a permanent effect on a child’s development. When you mix the grieving experience with stepfamily dynamics, you stir up emotional turmoil that no family member expects.
Stepparenting the Grieving Child shares with stepparents or anyone supporting grieving children how the author and other stepparents have navigated this complex and unfamiliar territory. The goal? To help children and families heal and ultimately thrive. This guidebook encourages stepparents first to take care of themselves, next to understand their child’s grieving, and finally to learn ways to enjoy daily living. Readers gain insight and ideas from stepparent stories, expert recommendations, and the author’s 25 years of personal experience as the stepmom of two grieving children.
- Join this private Facebook Group, Stepparenting the Grieving Child, for community with other parents of grieving children.
- This free, downloadable grief support book list is only a click away — email Diane Ingram Fromme if link breaks.
- Please visit the National Alliance for Grieving Children website for a treasure trove of resources. In particular, every November we honor Children’s Grief Awareness month and offer widespread digital presence. Look for the hashtags #grieftalk #childrengrieve
- Visit StepMom Magazine, the only only magazine dedicated to the need of stepmothers. Look for my special story about holiday negotiations in December 2020, and “Negotiating With Your Stepkids: 3 Strategies for Resolving Conflict in Your Home” in January 2021. Check out their eBooks Marrying A Widower or Fulltime Stepmothering.
- Click into our News and Events page, or our Helpful Links page.
- Rotating articles on Twitter and the Diane Ingram Fromme author page Facebook help parents and stepparents understand their needs and journeys with their grieving children.
- For your widows or widowers, a must-visit is Jenny Lisk’s The Widowed Parent Podcast. I was so excited to visit with Jenny in Episode #12…and now she’s past Episode #90!
- June 23 -25, 2021, let’s visit IN PERSON (hopeful!!) at the National Alliance for Grieving Children (NAGC) Annual Symposium in Pittsburgh, PA.
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Cultivate connection through education, a safe community, authenticity, and self care
- Stepfamily Education: Stepfamilies are not dysfunctional first families. They are a distinct family form with their own lifecycle. Read about what you can expect with the stepfamily cycle in Stepparenting the Grieving Child, Chapter 4, “Debunking Stepfamily Myths.”
- Grief Education: Stepparents often give the deer-in-the-headlights look when asked if their stepkids have had time to grieve. Crack the taboo subject of grief when someone has died or disappeared from a child’s life. Here’s a hint from Chapter 6. “The Lifework of Grief:” Grief never ends. It only changes as we change, over time. Let’s talk, because no child should grieve alone.
- Safe Community: Many stepparents of grieving kids want a safe and private place where they can ask questions of others in the same situation. Join the Facebook group, Stepparenting the Grieving Child, by telling us a few words about why this opportunity would make a difference for you.
- Authenticity: No one wins when we are trying to be something we’re not. We expend countless energy, and our stepchildren have no idea who we really are. Discover the beauty in being authentic, and letting the real you shine through. Learn how in Chapter 5, “Your Identity in the New Family,” and Chapter 9, “Straight Talk and Honest Communication.”
- Self Care: When you take care of yourself, you have more energy to learn and to give to others. Period. Reflect on the importance of self care throughout the book, using the end-of-chapter reflection questions, or your own insights.
Diane’s award-winning guidebook, Stepparenting the Grieving Child, is devoted to helping women and men become better equipped to step into a family where a parent has died or vanished. Diane actively authored the award-winning Mama J’s Parenting Posts Blog from 2008 – 2014. This blog offers a deep library of reflections about parenting and stepparenting. Mama J’s was awarded the Remarriage Works Top Ten Remarriage and Stepfamily blog award in 2010.
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Sample a clip from Diane Fromme’s Stepparenting the Grieving Child interview with Rev. Barbara Bue, former talk show host of “Creative Living” on KRFC radio.
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Listen as Diane Fromme discusses the Fantasy to Reality stage of stepfamily development as part of her conversation with Rev. Barbara Bue, former talk show host of “Creative Living” on KRFC radio.