Now that I have your attention, here’s what I really think about the continued comments I’m receiving on my Selfish Stepparenting? post:  They are poignant, revealing, and I think important to the types of dialogues we have and continue to have in and about stepfamilies.  These comments raise some provocative questions, such as:  What does a child most need from his/her stepparent?  Can or should the love between stepparent and stepchild be compared with the love between bio parent and child?  Is zigzag evolution a real, felt dynamic in stepfamilies?

I hope you post your comments, or if you don’t want to go public, send me e-mail at

Mama J is a writer, parent, and stepparent in Northern Colorado.  Check out her book project, Stepparenting the Grieving Child, at  Coming Soon:  News on the preview audio!


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