In doing research for one of my writing projects, I became inspired by this quote:

“The last of one’s freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstance.” — Viktor Frankl, Austrian psychotherapist, author, and Holocaust survivor

These powerful words remind us that every day we are in charge of our attitudes and behaviors.  I think what the recent discussions about selfish stepparenting have yielded for me is a message:  Choose love.  Choosing love will always work for the greater good of your stepfamily.

What choices don’t work in stepfamilies?

  • Choosing power.
  • Choosing control.
  • Choosing the family role “the kids need.”
  • Choosing to find fault.
  • Choosing isolation from the family.
  • Choosing to dwell on immediate gratification.

Make it a great week — it’s up to you!

Mama J is a writer, parent, and stepparent in Northern Colorado.  Read about her book project, Stepparenting the Grieving Child, at



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